Mindset, personal development and nourishing your soul

It’s more important than ever to be boosting your health right now.

It’s not the time for fueling up on sugar, flour or anything inflammatory to your body.

Inflammation IS the pre-cursor to disease developing in your body.

But right now, during the Covid-19 pandemic our only defense is our own immune system.

We need to fuel our bodies with foods that help us not hurt us especially now.

Our emotional health also has a lot to do with how we fight disease. Right now our stress level might be a bit high to say the least. Learning to process negative emotion is key to handling stress in our bodies.  I just wrote another blog post on Why It’s Good to Feel Bad here which is an important part of being healthy.

When the emotional body and/or spiritual body is out of balance disease develops because often we suppress our emotions throughout our life.  It then might show up as a diseased condition but it didn’t begin at the physical realm.  The thought or emotion that triggered the condition to develop began in an environment that moves much faster; the world of emotion and spirit.  Learning to process emotions is the key to balance your emotional body.

But in this blog post, I want to talk about boosting your immune system through food and natural ways.

We need our own strength to give it a fighting chance not just now but as we age.

I think this is also a wake up call for a lot of people in our country and now realizing how much we need our health in a time like this.  The last 10 years we definitely have grown in this area that our food we eat affects our health.  Yet, the United States still has a growing problem of unhealthy individuals that could be reversible should they just change their daily eating habits.

Here’s 21 ingredients that you should include in your recipes that will help keep your health up:

  1. garlic (chop and let sit for 10 minutes so beneficial chemicals to release)
  2. onion
  3. greens/veggies (kale, spinach, romaine, broccoli, artichoke, arugula, asparagus, swiss chard, collards, broccoli rabe, cauliflower, (colored peppers, eggplant, tomato – night shades and in some, not all, individuals cause inflammation), etc.
  4. radishes
  5. cucumbers
  6. leeks
  7. organic stocks (grass-fed beef, chicken, veggie)
  8. almonds
  9. walnuts
  10. brazil nuts
  11. seeds
  12. ginger
  13. turmeric
  14. beans
  15. berries
  16. apples
  17. apricots
  18. wild fish (i.e. salmon)
  19. quinoa
  20. whole grains (if tolerated)
  21. citrus fruits

Here’s some herbs that can help support your lungs and/or immunity:

  1. mullein leaf (make into a tea along with schisandra berries for a support to your lungs) (delish!)
  2. astragalus (adaptogen to help support your lungs)
  3. ashwaganda (adaptogen to help support stress in your body)
  4. herbal teas such as green tea, echinacea, lemon balm, elderberry, passion tea, etc.

Drink water!!!!

You don’t see anything in a box, nothing has a label.

They are just natural whole foods.

When clients ask me what they should eat, it always starts with whole foods they like to eat and start to crowd out the unhealthy foods, start adding in more vegetables and build from there.  You slowly crowd out the unhealthy foods.

I’m a certified life and holistic health coach, if you need help around navigating and making sense out of your problems or want to get healthy or lose weight, now is always better than tomorrow to start working on making your life the best it could be.  I offer free 20 minute mini-sessions.  Contact me to get a link to my calendar.  I can’t wait to help you!

 

Why in the World Would I Want to Feel Bad Feelings?

Especially if they don’t feel good.

I know it seems counterintuitive.  But stay with me here.

As a human being, we have a primitive brain that is constantly wanting to seek pleasure.  When you experience discomfort in your body (negative emotion), your brain actually thinks you are in danger (in primitive times this served us) so its immediate response is to find comfort – pronto!

We spend a LOT of time avoiding, resisting feelings and acting irrationally and we don’t even realize it.  It kinda goes under our radar or it exasperates into something worse.

For example:

  • It’s why we look to eat or seek comfort foods even when we aren’t even hungry.
  • It’s why we might want a glass of wine or an alcoholic beverage on a stressful day.
  • It’s why you might find yourself doing a lot of other things besides the things you said you were going to do today.
  • It’s why we use medicine to calm the discomfort in our bodies when we experience anxiety.
  • It might be why you lash out at your partner or kids.

In 2016, Xanax (used for anxiety) was the 19th most prescribed medication in the United States, with more than 27 million prescriptions. 😱

All these things provide a quick dopamine hit to our brains — but what it really provides is a false pleasure that has net-negative consequences.

They may feel good in the moment but it usually doesn’t serve us long term.

We use all these things to escape our feelings.

These last few weeks, with the Corona Virus pandemic spreading throughout our world; anxiety, stress and uncertainty has increased exponentially.  

So let’s talk about why you would want to feel negative feelings in the first place.

Especially the ones that might feel bad like anxiety, disappointment, sadness, anger, frustration, uncertainty and any other negative emotion that comes up.

Actually, right now during this pandemic, is the perfect time to practice feeling negative emotion because it’s processing emotions that will help you actually help you feel better. 

Not wanting to feel negative emotion is like saying something is wrong with the way you feel.

Your brain wants to fix it immediately.

As crazy as this might sound, negative emotions don’t need to be fixed.

They need to be felt!

Even though we go through life thinking they do and we do everything in our power trying not feel them.

So why would we actually want to feel bad?

Because we are human and it’s part of the human experience.

All of it.  The good and bad.

Somehow, we think we are supposed to be happy ALL-OF-THE time.

And, we go through life thinking that is the goal but we will always be disappointed thinking that.

Here’s how we know:

  • Who wants to feel excited when their vacation or big event gets canceled?
  • Who wants to feel happy when their mom dies?
  • Who wanted to feel glad when they lose their job?
  • Who wants to feel excited when their children’s school is canceled?

I don’t know about you, but I want feel terrible when these things happen.

We are here to live the full human experience.  50% negative / 50% positive.

Our brains do not like uncertainty or feeling any discomfort.

It’s constantly looking to solve for certainty.  It looks to the news, as you scroll through social media, articles seeking for answers to solve for uncertainty.

It’s normal.  It’s what our brains want to do.

A desire to be happy all-the-time has a price – it has negative consequences.  It also cuts us off of living a full human experience.

We were born to live the human experience.  That. is. it.  It’s not all rainbows and daisies.

It has never been this way — have you noticed?  It will never be that way either.  Bad things happen.

Our life is supposed to include both negative and positive emotion.

With the Corona Virus pandemic, our brains seems to be hyper-focused on the doom and gloom and has our brains making things up that aren’t even true.

Have you noticed your brain going from one situation like I’m nervous about people not keeping their distance or still going out – being angry about it, then jumping to job loss, the economy, your friend who is a nurse that might get sick then the next thing you are watching the news and they are polling the numbers on the amount of deaths last night.

Stop.

None of this serves you.  Be informed but don’t overwhelm your brain with the negative.

Don’t start thinking of all the negative things that “might happen” to compound your emotion even worse.  And, if you do — then give equal air time to the positive.

Ask yourself what good is going to come from this.  Believe me there is a LOT of good too.

Here’s some:  the world is connecting in a different way (none of which probably would of been possible 15 years ago), some can work from home, kids are still learning online, having more connection with a loved one that you may have been disconnected with, better parenting skills if you have kids at home.

Listen we can think of the bad but we have to also have to give our brains fair play for the good.

So — I’m not going to leave you flat with all your negative emotion and not know what to do with it — as if there is actually something to do with it.   So…

Next time you experience negative emotion your body.

Just notice it.

Take a seat.

Don’t judge it.

Allow it to just there in your body.

How does it feel?  Describe it.

Does it feel heavy?

Does it feel light?

Where is it in your body?

Is it at the pit of your stomach, in your throat, top of your chest?

Where in your body do you feel it most?

Does it feel hard, soft, fast, slow.

If it were to have a color, what color would it be?  Red, green, black or ??

Breathe it in.

Just feel the emotion.

Just let it be there.

Do not react.

Do not resist.

Do not avoid.

Just let it be there.

Breathe.

Just notice that you feeling the emotion is not really harmful.

It’s just a sensation in your body.

That. is. it.

It’s not going to hurt you to experience this feeling.

You are not going to die to experience the feeling.

It’s just there.

You will realize it’s not that bad.

Your brain will calm down.  Your body will relax.  Breathe.

As you continue to process negative emotion you will actually experience less of it.  

As you get good at practicing negative emotion when they arise, you get used to it and you won’t be on auto-pilot to the fridge for food or want a glass of vino to escape it.

Yes, life will still be 50/50 but you will realize the feeling is not harmful.  You will not die.

You will just experience the emotion.  You are human.

You won’t resist it.  You won’t react to it.   You won’t avoid it.

This takes practice.

You might only be able to sit with it for a minute before deciding you want to escape it with food or something else.

However, long it takes, it takes.

Do not judge yourself or ever beat yourself up over “avoiding” it with something to mask the emotion you are feeling (such as eating something you didn’t want to eat, or anything else you do) — that never serves you.

Come from a place of compassion for yourself.

Sometimes the emotion comes along for ride — but as a passenger, not in the drivers seat of your life.

We may still feel it.  It may feel less intense.  Our brain will learn to be okay with it.

We teach our brains we are resilient human beings.

We can do hard things.

You got this my friends.

I’m a certified life and holistic health coach, if you need help with this or know someone that does, don’t let yourself fall through the cracks, set up a free 20 mini-session so you can get the help you need so you can feel better.  Press the contact button for👆🏻a link to my calendar to set your free-mini session.

This is the perfect time to start a morning routine of creating space for yourself, especially if you have never had one before.

Life is always happening for us not to us.  

With COVID-19/Corona virus circulating in our world right now, it has a lot of us feeling uncertain and fearful.

It feels scary.

Our brains are in 5th gear in trying to keep us safe.   

As a human, we crave certainty. 

I want to offer to you that it’s not anything outside of you that is making you feel uncertainty.   

Not even the corona virus.

It’s in fact our thoughts that is creating uncertainty.

Our feelings are ALWAYS created from our thoughts.

A morning routine can help you create more certainty and direct you to an intentional and deliberate life no matter what’s going on outside of you.

What an AMAZING gift you can give yourself, your life and the humans around you.

My morning routine is sacred to me.  

While I’ve always had some sort of morning routine, creating space for myself every morning has been the best gift to myself since having kids. 

It was even more important when I started a business since I had to be my own boss, employee and go getter!

It brings peace.

It brings awareness.

It brings intention vs. reaction. 

If you want certainty, it must start with YOU.

Start your day with what it is YOU want to create vs. what the world might demanding from you. 

Pings, alerts and human voices in your home or the humans on TV?  Stop it!

Creating space and a morning routine for myself keeps me centered in the direction I truly want.  Even in times of what feels like a lot of uncertainty.

Here’s my usual morning routine.  I hope it helps you create one for yourself.

If you have never had one before, you can start small, just do #1 and #2.

Create space for you and your own brain not everyone else’s.

  1. Put your phone on silence before you go to bed.  I set mine to automatically go to bedtime at a certain time.
  1. Wake up early.  Or, at least 1-2 hours prior to when you normally awake to create this special and sacred space for yourself.

Research shows our brains are sharp & creative in the morning regardless if you are a “morning” person. 

  1. Upon waking, do not look at your phone or flip open the news.  

Do not let your inbox, messages, or any social media, or TV upon waking become the director of your day.  You be the director!  

Our brains  natural instinct is to keep you safe so it looks to be startled.  You get and decide to be in charge of what you intend to consume.

  1. Enjoy a full glass of room-temperature lemon water

Benefits:  lots of vitamin c, boosts your metabolism, oxygenates your blood and supports your gut/digestion and metabolism.

  1. You can skip coffee or tea and just enjoy lemon water.  But, when I’m ready to sit, I enjoy a cup of Four Sigmatic Coffee/Chaga Mushroom mix.  I started this a few months ago and I love it.  

I drink it black.  It tastes like coffee.  

Prior to this I was drinking homemade bullet-proof coffee but I had to ditch the dairy and it was an easy switch for me!

It it still helps my brain focus and think better!  Mushrooms are one of the most powerful foods you can eat for your health!  

Mushrooms have been used for thousands of years and are beneficial for disease prevention and/or healing including cancer!

  1. Journal.  I start with Dear God & Universe, 

List, state and visualize 3-5 things you’re grateful for — big or small it doesn’t matter.  

Everyone on this planet has something to be grateful for.  Get creative!

Being grateful immediately puts you out of fear and raises your emotional state.

You can not be grateful and fearful at the same time.

  1. Next, do a complete brain dump and get what is in your brain out on paper so you can have a look at it!  Don’t assume you know what’s in there.  A lot of our thoughts are negative and sub-conscious.

Write it with pen & paper in your journal, not typing.  Research shows a connection in using a pen and paper is much more effective than typing.  

See what your brain is thinking.  

Our thoughts ultimately are creating our life whether we like our life or not.  

It’s a good idea to see what it is you are actually thinking.  

Do not judge yourself and the sentences your brain is thinking. Just write and continue to write until you have nothing left in there.

As you get comfortable with journaling, you might not think you have anything else to write.  You can start asking yourself questions to prompt you.  

When you ask your brain questions, it immediately looks for answers.

Don’t worry about if someone will see it.  And, if you find yourself holding back because of that, just write in on paper and you can throw it away.  If you are new to journaling than it might take some practice to get use to it.  Think of it as a gift not a chore.

  1. Set an intention for the day.  How do you want to show up?  Write it down.  Go after it in every single thing you do!
  1. If you are not a meditator, take a few quiet minutes for breathing so you can get present and create space for yourself.

Here’s two breathing techniques that help reduce anxiety, bring you into the present moment, and promote overall well-being.  

I highly recommend them and you literally can use these techniques any time you are feeling stressed not just in the morning.

Dr Weil’s 4-7-8 breathing technique 

Alternate Nostril Breathing 

  1. Read.  Spend time reading even if for 10-20 minutes.  I love personal development whether it be learning something new in health, business or inspirational so it sets my creativity and intention in full mode.
  1. Okay, so now you are ready to move your body.  You, of course, can exercise first — before journaling.  Do what works for you. 

Movement or exercise gets your blood and lymph moving. 

It immediately moves you out of your current state and into a higher vibration.  Your vibration or emotional state is what drives you to take the actions or inactions in your life.  If you are feeling kind of low, you will not have the drive to take the actions you truly want.  When you are in a raised higher vibrational state, you attract more of that into your life.  It’s the law of attraction working for you not against you.

It immediately helps your brain get clear and focused.  Clarity is power! 

Circulating your blood and stretching your body is key to staying young and vibrant no matter your age.  

Now you are ready to start your day! 

Instead of looking at your phone/news/social media immediately, you have created space – for YOU to create a conscious and deliberate life on your terms not everyone else’s. 

As you practice this daily, you will get even more intentional, aware and direct your life into a routine that is conscious and deliberate to what you do want.  

At the very least, you start to become aware of your thoughts so you can make conscious changes and create the life you do want instead of being at the effect of everything around you. 

If you need help around what’s getting in your way or you just need help to navigate a problem you are experiencing, send me an email.  I offer free mini sessions, so you can walk-away with some tools and get a mini-experience of what coaching can do to help you, today!  

Remember life happens for us, not to us.

I’d love to hear back from you either via email or in the comments, if creating space and a morning routine has changed your life.  

It certainly has mine.

I can honestly say that out of 365 days in the year, I most likely only have skipped this 1-2x throughout the year due to unforeseen circumstances/travels.  

At this time, with COVID-19 as our circumstance it seems like it’s filling our lives with uncertainty and fear, but really it’s our thoughts that create that.  

This is a great practice to start so you can get a hold of the certainty, intention and the deliberate life you crave and want.  It’s still possible with everything happening around you!

Namaste. 

The belief in yourself needs to be stronger than anything else. Nothing outside of you or another person will create the confidence you want to achieve your goals. You must create that belief in yourself to get the result you truly want.

Your belief also needs to be serving you rather than sabotaging you.

We all have limiting beliefs that hold us back.

This week I celebrate 17 years as a personal chef and began a new chapter in my life.  I officially opened my business on my birthday.  It was an exciting gift to myself. The path getting here was anything but linear.

I had to believe in myself more than anyone else to get through the hard stuff.  

Back then, the internet was fairly new so it was a completely different ball game in business.  There was no pretty pictures of instagram for clients to see or FB for that matter. 

And, personal cheffing was pretty much new back then and was not at all in the mainstream of businesses nor in my clients mind-eye either.

I know the belief I had in myself and my dream played the biggest part in making a living out of something I loved.

As we begin this year and new decade, I have even bigger and new challenging goals for business as well as in my health and relationships.

If I’m being honest, I had a number of these same goals the last several years.

There are other people that don’t truly believe I will ever achieve it — and that’s okay.

Your confidence must come from you not anyone outside of you.  

There will be plenty of nay-sayers. You can NOT listen to them.

There’s also the “nay-sayer” of your own mind aka your primitive brain.

If you rely on others or looking towards anything outside of you to build your confidence, you will always fall flat.  

Self-confidence comes from yourself not anyone else.

And — it can be learned — great news, right?!? — especially if you don’t identify with being confident.

It comes from building integrity with yourself to do the things you said you were going to do. Especially when you don’t want to or it seems “hard” and “doubt and fear” are rearing their ugly head.

It takes practice over and over again.

Big goals bring up a lot doubt and fear.

Our primitive brain will want to keep us safe — which means keep you status quo.

It does not want you to grow especially if there is discomfort in the process.

It could care less about any goal you have in the future – whether it be your weight, business, money, relationships or whatever it is you want to achieve.

There is a difference between dreaming and achieving what it is you truly desire.

Dreams will always be dreams until you start actually taking action — big goals may require some stuff that you may not want to do but have to in order to create the result you want.

It will create discomfort.

A lot of my clients I work with have a specific weight goal and have been on the diet yo-yo for most of their lives — losing 20, gaining 10 more, losing 40 lbs and then gaining 5 more, etc.  

When they reach mid-life, it seems like it’s a dream that will never be reached with some new challenges that come along for the ride as we get older.

We literally can dream our entire life away but unless you act on it they remain as our “wishes”.  

Did you ever hear yourself say “I wish”?

I know I have.

I wish this, I should this, I want this.

You actually create more of the same — no change.  no dream coming true.  no wish being granted.  

We just create more of the same.

We have to be on the look out for what our primitive brain offers us in our thoughts. 

We tend to think they are true as if it’s never going to happen — and it won’t if you keep thinking that.

We also make it mean different things about yourselves when we are constantly recreating and doing the same thing — the things we make it mean is when we start to sabotage ourself.

Did you ever hear someone say “same thing, different day” when you ask them how they are.

Yes, it will be the same if you keep believing it.

If you do some investigating some thoughts do not serve us AT ALL — as a matter of fact they may be creating the very results we don’t want.

Our thoughts are just opinions.  Yet, we see them as truth.

As soon as your feet hit the floor, your brain is laser focused to prove those thoughts true in the most efficient way possible.

Hello brownie — glass of wine — social media or whatever your favorite flavor of avoiding is on a stressful day!

Our results are always a reflection of our thoughts.

We have a lot of thoughts rolling around in our heads that seem so innocent but are sabotaging us unconsciously.

Those thoughts could be from childhood that we have been conditioning and maybe even fine tuning as if they are really true.

We have stories about our life and what has been.

We need to change the story about our life and about ourselves in order to create a different result.

In order to create a new result especially one that is challenging and something you’ve never done before, you have to think differently.

We become what we believe.

The thoughts you think over and over again — become your beliefs.  Even if they aren’t true.

It means being committed more than just being interested in achieving it.

Our belief in ourself needs to be 100% — no matter what.

There will be people in your life (even those you may love – like friends and family) that may not believe you are going to create the result you want.

There intentions may seem good and offer to be “realistic”.

What does realistic even mean? It means what you want it to be.

“If you can envision it in your head, you can have it in your hand.”

~ Bob Proctor

And, if you believe it to be – it could be as realistic as what you want.  

Realistic is a perception.

Just because you haven’t obtained it. Just because it’s seems like a far stretch — does NOT mean anything.

These comments could trigger doubt that may be lingering around in your brain.  

When you doubt, you most likely don’t behave the way you’d want.

You must ignore them.  

You must believe in yourself.  

You must have the courage to do it no matter what.

You must be willing to feel all the discomfort that comes up and do it anyway.

It doesn’t matter what your goal is in order to create a new result your belief needs to be in line with your goals to produce the result you truly want.

Often when I’m coaching my clients, they are surprised when they discover what the thoughts they think actually are. 

You need to uncover your current beliefs, so you can see what they are and the results they are currently producing.

Everything you have created in your life is based on your past.

If you want a different result, you need to generate different emotions to start behaving a different way.

Our emotions are created from our thoughts.

If you want help around this and are struggling to do the things you know you want to do but aren’t doing them — you can make this year, the year that you made a real change to truly get the result you want and one that is sustainable.  

Contact me to set up a free mini-session where we will discuss where you are, where you want to be and obstacles that are getting in your way.  Walk away with strategies to help you get there – today!

What result do you want in your life that you currently aren’t getting? Tell me in the comments 👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻 I’d love to hear them!

1.  Eat mindfully

Put the phones down, computers away.  Really be present with your food, the textures, smells and the visual plate that is in front of you.  Be grateful for your food.

2.  Eat a varied whole foods diet

Eliminate junk and processed food.  Eat a diet that whole food based.

3.  Don’t eat based on how you feel

Many times we are eating because we are bored, lonely, frustrated, angry, anxious, fearful, etc.  Try your best to move through your emotion without relying on food for comfort. Go for walk, exercise or journal and try drinking water first despite you may not feel like it – or face head on and deal with what you are avoiding.

4.  Don’t replace sleep with caffeine

This will become a vicious cycle and the only way to avoid it is not drinking caffeine when you feel tired especially after 12 pm.

5.  Reduce stress

Meditate.  Breathe. Journal.  These are all good ways to release stress

6.  Eliminate sugar

The best way to control sugar cravings is cold turkey for a minimum of 2 weeks.  After 2 weeks you will notice sugar does not control you

7.  Drink at least 6-8 glasses of water a day

Drinking as much water as you can will help release toxins, hydrate and help you eat more than you desire

8.  Incorporate self-care in your daily or weekly regimen

Doing something just for you, whether that means getting your nails down, facial, just spending some time alone possibly reading a new book, journaling, or even organizing things you have been avoiding

9.  Reduce and limit alcohol to 0-1x a week (limit to 1 drink)

Despite people thinking drinking a glass of wine a day may be good for you.  No amount of alcohol is good for your health. Drink in moderation or leave it for a special occasion.

10.  Exercise 3x a week for at least 20 minutes

Any movement you do outside of your regular daily day will enhance your health for the better.  Start today by simply fast walking.

11.  Eliminate toxins in your cleaning and skin care routine

There are so many natural products on the market there is no excuse not to change up your cleaning and skin care routine.  This includes everything you put in and on your body as well as in your house. These toxins build up in your body over time and cause stagnation in your lymph and blood circulatory system.  Organs have to work much harder to release them out of your body causing stress.

12.  Eat one extra vegetable a day

Eating extra veggies everyday will always be a good idea.

What’s one new habit you are going to try this week?  Let me know in the comments!!!

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As a naturally soothing and calming essential oil, you will find that lavender is a helpful oil to keep on hand. I love it and use it for a restful sleep every night as well as for scarring and skin irritations.   It really is amazing.

 

We’ve all been there.  Going from one diet to the next trying to lose weight or trying to get healthy as certain diets might promise.

Following a specific diet might help you lose weight temporarily or even get you a bit healthier for a while. What you don’t realize that almost anything will work initially if your diet is pretty crummy.

There are a lot of popular diets circulating around but what works for one for one person does not mean its good for your own body. There are a lot of factors that come into play when it comes to your diet and health. There are plenty of women out there that might look like they are healthy because they have been blessed with “I can eat anything I want and not gain weight”.  Their diet might include lots of coffee, bagels and pizza!  There is no nutrients in this type of  diet and eventually this will catch up with them in some form or another.  Usually looks like catching colds often, viruses, hormonal issues, lethargy, hair loss, autoimmune issues, or something worse.

Everyone needs a good mix of nutrients that will help your body thrive. Mixing up your meals from week to week is a good way to get in as many nutrients as possible instead of relying on isolated supplements to make up the difference.  Your body just doesn’t work that way.  It often needs another nutrient or fat to absorb it.

Next time you are meal planning.  Think of your plate as “how much energy and nutrients am I getting from this meal”. When you sit down to a eat plate of pasta with meatballs feels a lot different than sitting down to meatballs on top of a bed of zucchini noodles or spaghetti squash.

There are three macronutrients required by humans: carbohydrates, fats and proteins. Each of these macronutrients provides energy in the form of calories.  From there it’s micronutrients which are vitamins and minerals.

The quality of each of these is important. Eating grass-fed meat is much healthier than eating conventional raised meat.  Eating healthy fats such as an avocado, coconut oil or extra virgin olive oil is much different than eating unhealthy chemically processed oils such as canola and soybean oil (aka vegetable oil).  Many people assume because it says “vegetable” oil it’s good, it’s not – almost all soybean crops in the US are GMO. The nutrition make up is totally different.  The amount of omega 3’s to 6’s are the perfect ratio in grass-fed meat.  In conventional raised meat it’s about 1-20 ratio of omega 3’s to 6’s which is off balanced.  We do need omega-6’s in our diet but too much causes inflammation in our body leading to high blood pressure and clots.

If you are counting calories then you have to remember not all calories are the same. And, calories in, calories out is an outdated method of losing weight nor is it effective. Or, is it useful when it comes to your health. Eating a 100 calorie snack pack is definitely not the same as eating a 100 calorie apple. The nutrition, vitamins and minerals that in an apple plus the fiber your body needs to move your waste along does not even closely compare to the 100 calorie snack pack. Plus it isn’t even real food so your body doesn’t even know how to process it.  And, please don’t fall in the trap of using a “low calorie” flavored creamer in your coffee. It’s filled with junk and preservatives and sometimes chemicals that is not good for your body.

When you eat a nutrient dense diet that is unique to you, you naturally lose weight. And, you will naturally boost your health because your body is getting the nutrition it needs to thrive.

It may not happen overnight as say a 500 calorie deprivation diet that is for sure to set yourself up for failure. But giving your body the nutrition it needs is sustainable long term where you never have to diet. You lose your cravings because your body is getting exactly what it needs.

Many times cravings are just your body begging for the void nutrients. Like when you find yourself reaching for chocolate possibly your body is just lacking some magnesium.

What about sugar cravings? Certainly, sugar is not good for us right.

Every cell in your body actually needs glucose and often times these sugar cravings are a sign that we are deficient in certain trace minerals like chromium, magnesium, vanadium and zinc from a poor diet. But if you are eating a lot of refined sugar then you will certainly be craving more sugar. The easiest way to stop that refined sugar craving is cold turkey. Try eating sweet vegetables such as carrots, sweet potatoes or fruit. Do not replace sugar with artificial sweeteners. They are not good for you at all!

Our food is meant to be diverse in nutrients and taking one supplement for a specific mineral if you are deficient is not the same.

Your body is designed to work perfectly given the right nutrients and environment.

Everyone is unique.

Everyone needs to eat according to them not what everybody else is doing.

A varied nutrient dense diet will bring you more vitality than following a diet that will leave you void of certain nutrients. Your body becomes imbalanced and often leads to sickness when it doesn’t have proper nutrients.

Most times we are eating for the wrong reasons ~ namely stress, avoidance or just numbing out what we do not want to feel or deal with at the moment. We use food for comfort whether you realize it or not.

Diets are directly setting your body up for deprivation.  This usually backfires because it usually leads to massive cravings, binging and overeating which will sabotage your attempts in the first place. And, you set your brain up for feelings of guilt, unworthiness, undeserving, etc.

When you figure out what works best for your body is where you feel your best. You don’t get sick as often. You have sustained energy all day. You aren’t craving foods left and right.

You don’t have to eat perfect and there really is no perfect anyhow. Forget all those crazy diets out there!  Just start eating a variety of food and nutrients that your body is craving and needs to thrive.

You don’t have to eat less you just have to eat right.

If we learn to manage our emotions, instead of avoiding them, we could literally change any area of our lives we wanted to.

Can you imagine life with:

  • sustainable weight loss
  • not overspending when your don’t have money to spend
  • not using alcohol as a buffer to avoid an emotion (do you even realize you may be doing that?) Does 7 pm Friday night cocktail ring a bell?
  • not eating sugar
  • not procrastinating
  • fill in the blank of what is not serving your well-being!

It sounds pretty amazing if we could just master this one life hack of managing your emotions.

Is it hard?

Well it is, if your brain is telling you it is.

Will there be resistance?

Of course!

Our brains have not evolved in a way that truly serves us. It is still in survival mode from thousands of years ago when we had to survive the dinosaurs and lions, tigers & bears, oh my! The brain’s job is to keep you safe. Even if in today’s world we do not have to survive those treacherous animals. It will try it’s best to keep you safe and comfortable even if that does not serve you.

The brain is basically in fear and survival mode at all times. The brain is really good at what it does. The brain is constantly looking to be right and also seek pleasure.

When you learn how to manage your mind and sit and feel an emotion you normally avoid, your entire life can change – really it can!

You will start showing up for yourself, your well-being, you become authentically who you were meant to be, you learn to love yourself, you can start that business and take action instead of procrastinating and making excuses!

And…drum roll…you can have sustainable weight-loss. Yes, you can stop going from diet to diet your entire life only to gain the weight back.

What do you want to do? What is it that you want in your life?

There are basically 60,000 thoughts per day. Your brain is designed to avoid pain and seek pleasure. When you avoid an emotion, you basically are getting a feel good dopamine hit in your brain. Once it learns something and does it over and over, it doesn’t take any energy to do it. It just becomes a routine. It becomes unconscious so you may not even be aware you are doing it.

The problem with that is it’s temporary and it’s also artificial.

Did you ever notice after you eat the food you didn’t want to eat, you feel bad and it only causes more negative emotion. It becomes habit and a vicious cycle. Your brain is trying to avoid an emotion so you feel good (temporarily). You may not even be aware of it. It could be an unconscious thought and it creates a feeling which is driving your actions and ultimately your results.

It’s okay to feel bad. It’s okay not feel good 100% of the time. Without contrast, we wouldn’t be able to enjoy life because everything would be the same. Life is not meant to be happy 100% of the time. To be truly authentic in our lives, it requires us to feel negative emotions 50% of the time just as much as it does positive ones. Otherwise, we are not really showing up authentically, are we? We just cover up our emotions.

We really have not been shown how to deal with our emotions. It would of been wonderful if we were taught this in school or even from our parents.
Instead we were taught to hide our emotions as a kid. Things like don’t cry, don’t feel bad, don’t worry, don’t be angry, don’t tell anyone, etc. It truly has made a mess in our society if you think about it. Nobody knows how to deal with life. We wind up with anxiety, 50 lbs overweight, drinking, clutter, shame, worry, stressed, fill in your vice, or truly not showing up for yourself. It will keep you stuck, not taking action and making every excuse in the book! You may “feel” justified but it has everything to do with your brain avoiding pain and seeking pleasure.

The question you might be asking is.

How do I fix this?

I have to let you in on a secret. It doesn’t go away (I mean the feeling of wanting to avoid the pain and seeking pleasure).

However, when you learn to manage your feelings and emotions and ultimately manage your mind – whoa – it’s like you are awakened!

You can seek and create any emotion you want to feel.

You get to choose.

Your emotions are just an indicator of what thoughts you are thinking and what’s going on with you.

Step 1: Become aware of your emotion you are wanting to avoid at any giving moment. When you become aware, you can look it from outside your mind. You become the observer.

It’s powerful when you realize you are not your thoughts.

Sit with that emotion for a moment without anything other than just feeling it. What does it feel like in your body? Be okay with it. It’s okay to feel this emotion. It’s not going harm you.

Let it go.

It will leave you. The urge will go away.

Talk to it and just say thank you but I’m choosing a new thought. Embrace it with purpose!

Step 2: generate a new emotion you want to feel.

What thoughts you will have to think? What does that feel like in your body? How can you feel this emotion today?

Tony Robbins says we attach meaning to everything. Those meanings turn into emotions, and ultimately, those emotions frame the life we live.

Step 3: journal. Write down what you are thinking or feeling. When you can see your thoughts on paper, you can tell what your mind is thinking. You have the ability to change the thoughts. Practice this everyday. I like to do this in the morning, some like to do this at night so they can release all their thoughts before they go to bed. It really doesn’t matter as long as you get in the practice of seeing what you are thinking you can slowly start to shift.

I invite you to try this on and see how it feels. Be curious, be fascinated. Become aware! When you give up the false pleasures, you can live a life of total well-being.

 

How many times have you changed your “mindset” about something only to find yourself right back in your old habits in days or weeks? Sort of like when your New Year Eve’s resolutions went out the window by the second week of February!

Habits are just that – habits!  They are not really connected to anything.  It’s something that we do subconsciously without even thinking about it.  Like brushing your teeth or getting dressed.

We actually have the power to change anything in a heartbeat as Tony Robbins would say.  I know that’s hard to believe when you’ve tried everything in order to quit smoking, stop drinking, quit junk food, change your eating habits, start exercising, save money or whatever it is that you want to change but keep resorting back to your old habits.

We associate change with being hard, don’t we.

As humans, we ultimately work from what is called the primal brain or the reptilian part of the brain.

Those are where your habits come from.

We think we just need to think our way through it or reframe your mindset (the prefrontal cortex part of our brain). It’s much deeper than that.  Habit’s come from the survival part of the brain or reptilian/primal part of your brain.

It’s where your beliefs are about yourself.

Your identity (who we are at an unconscious level).

So if you don’t think very highly of yourself for whatever reason at the core level/identity level (primal brain) it will be a constant conflict with your thinking part of your mind (prefrontal cortex).

You can’t be anything other than what you believe about yourself is.  Your thoughts and energy create your reality.

Your thinking part of the brain/prefrontal cortex is your “wants” part of your brain. Example:  I want to quit stop drinking – that’s your prefrontal cortex speaking. But the habits come from the reptilian part of the brain…the part that says you have to have a drink in order to survive.

Guess who wins?  The reptilian part!

The reptilian part believes that whatever habit we have is necessary for survival. Even if it’s not in our best interest or even what we want.

We tend to work from the outside in when we want change.  You get the healthy food, leave your running shoes where you can see them, join a gym, replace chewing gum with cigarettes, etc. Changing your environment or behavior only gets you so far for so long. You need to change from the inside out for lasting change.

We do what we are.

Now that I’ve explained a little how habits come from the primal brain and the prefrontal cortex is our thinking part. The part that wants us to change but primal brain always wins.

How do we actually make lasting change?

Especially if who we identify with is not who or what we want to be.

I’m going to use a client setting a goal to lose 25 lbs but doesn’t follow through to eating in a healthy manner.

In order to reach your ideal weight or whatever goal you have set (financial, health, business, whatever)…

Focus on what you want! Not on what you don’t want.  

Energy flows where your attention goes.

This is where we usually focus on what we can’t have and feel deprived – but we are focusing on the problem.

We need to see ourselves as the person that is 25 lbs lighter – all day, everyday.  We need to see ourselves as healthy and fit.

Seeing ourselves as what we want to become will help us to make the right choices.

This is more than visualization.  The brain learns from repetition and the reptilian brain does not know truth from a lie.

We need to write it down, look at it, hear it, feel it, emotionalize with seeing ourselves as the healthy fit person.  Look at ourself in the mirror and love what you see – even if you don’t believe it! Continue to tell yourself you do.

What does that feel like?

What do you see?

If negative self-talk comes in, just know it’s just a thought, take a few deep breaths in through your nose, hold it for a few seconds and out through your mouth and just be.  Love yourself.  The thought can be dismissed and replaced if you choose.  Let it go and replace it with a good thought.

Repetition and more repetition will slowly start to reprogram your brain.  Doing this over and over you start changing little by little, doing different things. You start to love the changes you are seeing.

You notice you are focusing more on the energy you want to create vs the energy you don’t because it feels better. Slowly it becomes a habit. Your reptilian brain realizes “hey she’s not taking the urge I’m giving her to go for the food you shouldn’t be eating” and slowly your new healthy option becomes the habit. You start to change the person at the identity subconscious level.

Habits can be changed and change doesn’t have to be hard.

You have to become (relentlessly) the person you want to become now.  In your thinking, not just your doing.  The doing will come naturally when you change your thoughts about who you believe yourself to be.

Start by declaring the change you want to see.  Write it down.  Look at it several times a day. Get immersed in it. Write as if it already IS.

Become who you want to be now as if it is true.  Ask yourself what would that person be thinking and doing.

Don’t use words like can’t choose words like don’t.  For example, I don’t eat chocolate cake rather than I can’t eat chocolate cake. It can make a world of difference when you are around friends and family.  And, you don’t have to say it to anyone but yourself.  No explanation is needed.

It’s not just about what you are eating, it’s about why you are eating it (without blame please).

Ask yourself “who was I being that created the person 25 lbs heavier than I am now”.  If self-worth is low on the list.  Start by writing “I am worthy.”

Remember one thing:  You have the power to change your beliefs no matter what they are!

Above all, the most important thing is to love and have confidence in yourself no matter where you are on your health journey every step of the way.

namaste.

Sigmund Freud did not invent the concept of the three levels of consciousness but he brought it to the forefront of science.  It’s mind boggling when you think about it being the era that this came to life. Sort of when you think about how a cellphone came in our day!  What’s next?

Whatever the mind can think and see – it is!!

What I want to convey is how much of your very own unconscious thoughts are running and possibly maybe even ruining your life? And, you thought bad luck had something to do with it!  Or, that you don’t have control of what your mind thinks!

You do!!!

The mind is nothing but an energy field on the quantum level. Our entire body is truly just ball of energy not matter. The mind sits outside our body as a swirl of energy attracting like energy.

What’s truly fascinating is that 90-95% of your brains activity is beyond our conscious awareness and resides in the unconscious mind.  And, 5-10% of our cognitive activity resides in the conscious mind.   When I was researching, there were conflicting percentages but for the sake of this post I’m leaving it to two.  I honestly don’t remember learning this in school but this would be a great lesson to learn!  And, as much as I’ve been learning about this for the last 15+ years it’s not that easy to truly change our subconscious beliefs and thoughts – but it is possible!

This is where Sigmund Freud’s “Tip of the Iceberg” analogy comes in.  The vast majority of our lives is being driven by our unconscious minds where we are totally unaware or even know that we are thinking these thoughts – and my gosh in massive state.  Just look at the picture!  You can clearly see that the most important part of that iceberg is underneath where you can’t see, just like your unconscious.

This isn’t hokey pokey stuff – this is learning how to direct your life in the way that serves you best.

Don’t you want to be in the drivers seat of your life from now on!  You may think you are but most of your actions are on autopilot driven from the thoughts you are thinking subconsciously.

Whether you want to believe your unconscious mind is directing your life or not – it is!  It’s the law of the universe.  The entire universe is governed by the mind – the Law of Attraction. Everyone and everything on this earth is energy!

Now to put this to use for your life:  Let’s use an example such as “You may want to make more money!”  If your subconscious mind is telling you (conscious mind) that more money isn’t good, is hard to come by, or has you believing you are not worth that much money – you will never attract it no matter how much you want it.  Or, you may make good money especially if you are inspired and driven but somehow you always make it disappear.  Or, I’m sure you read stories where people that won the lottery and are broke in two years! Your car breaks down, you have unexpected expenses, you give it all away as soon as you get it, even worse repel it by being totally careless with your money.  Money is just an exchange of energy.

If your thoughts about money are any of those I mention above, money wouldn’t spend that much time around you.  It would go looking for someone with beliefs of respect, worthiness, deserving, helping others, etc.

Same goes for overeating or eating unhealthy on purpose.  You can say you don’t want to overeat and you want to lose weight. You even get all excited about the new you that you are creating!!  But little by little you find yourself overeating, you are eating things that are not healthy and you don’t even know why.  You drive yourself bonkers with cravings then you beat yourself up for overeating and wonder what’s wrong with you and you give up.  Well, nothing is wrong with you!

Most people are not even aware of the thoughts they are keeping that are leaving you in the dark your entire life.  And, year after year you try, try and try again but you don’t really succeed to the level you wish.  Or, things are good for a little while but you wind up going back to your old ways.

Living with regret and mediocrity.

We are all born with a blank slate.

It’s through our parents, caregivers, family members, mentors, teachers, friends, environment, etc that help form the beliefs that are so locked up in our unconscious minds.  As children, we are like magnets just taking in all this information.  But as a child we don’t have the analytical skills to really figure right or wrong – we just absorb this information and store it in our subconscious and unconscious mind.

We become ashamed, resentful, anxious, fearful, scared, embarrassed to name a few. Maybe not at that given time because we don’t even know any better – we just take it in.  Just remember it’s not your parents fault – they are just doing the best they can/did given how they grew up.

There is no blame.

Now you know this – you can change your thoughts so you can have the life you truly desire.

Your mind’s job is to keep you safe and out of danger.  This is how the subconscious/unconscious works.  It is constantly trying to keep you safe – even if at this present time that isn’t serving you or complete opposite of what you want to do.  It’s just doing it’s job.

Does this sound familiar?  “Hello!  I’m ready to jump into a new business but I’m scared of  “fill in the blank” so I never really do what I need to do. Keeping myself comfortable and in the right lane of life – just plugging by, making excuse after excuse as to why you can’t do what your true dream is.  Sound familiar?

So what’s next?

Once you understand how your actions are created from the above diagram you can truly create anything you desire.  I’m not going to pretend it’s easy especially if you’ve been believing a certain thought your entire life.  But – if you want to change what you are doing or not doing you have to change your thoughts! Your thoughts are causing you to feel a certain way which in turn is causing your actions or in action.

This isn’t going to require hours of therapy, dragging up the past, beating yourself up or hours of soul searching.  You can start right here – right where you are – now!

Ask yourself these questions:

  1. How am I feeling upon doing or not doing a specific action? i.e. overeating, drinking, taking action on business goals or sabotage
    • anxious, stressed, disgusted, annoyed, etc ?
  2. How and why do you feel this way?  If you say, you don’t want to feel this way but you are still doing it…
  3. What’s causing it?
  4. What thoughts are creating this feeling?
  5. Where are these thoughts coming from?  Your childhood?  Your parents, teacher, friend, etc?

Just understanding and being aware these thoughts, feelings and where and why you have this belief will help you move forward.  You also need to have compassion for yourself and not beat yourself up.  If you skip this step, you will land right back in the road to nowhere!

Write this down.  Do not spend hours, days, weeks, years doing this exercise.  Just think where these thoughts could be coming from.

Everything in your life right now is a reflection of your thoughts.

Remember, you are exactly where you need to be.  Once you understand why or what this thought that you are having is making you feel a certain way, it triggers a certain action or in action.  You can change your thought pattern (even if you don’t believe it to be true!).  Your unconscious mind does not know truth from lie.

  1. Rewrite your new beliefs and truths that will create your desired results.
    • ie.  I am worthy.  I am enough.  I am important.  Money supports my happiness., whatever is true for you, etc.
  2. Keep these new beliefs with you, in the forefront of your mind, read them, morning, noon and night and more!  Write them on your bathroom mirror.  Say them aloud and have some emotion around it.
  3. Visualize your new self, your new manifestations as if they already are here. Close your eyes and just feel the emotion around it.  See it as real, even if it has not happened yet.
  4. Use Mel Robbins 5 second rule to stop yourself and interrupt your thought pattern (if you don’t know Mel Robbin’s 5 second rule – google it.) if you still are having old self-destructing thoughts or not doing what you desire.  Ready – 5 4 3 2 1 – bam!

We all live by our feelings.  We go through life wanting to feel a certain way at any given moment. It’s why we do the things we do.

If you try to go about it just like 95% of the world does.  Such as…

I want to go on a diet —> You go on a diet —> You start out great —> lose 30 lbs  —> little by little you are back into your old habits and 10 lbs heavier than when you started.

It’s because you haven’t changed your beliefs.

Or, possibly you only got to day 3 and you are raiding the cookies because some how you think you can live on lettuce alone.  Weight-loss has nothing to do with willpower!  Your brain will always win! Stop beating yourself up!

It’s your subconscious/unconscious mind that keeps us stuck in our old patterns. It keeps you comfortable.  You might be saying well I’m not comfortable being 40 lbs overweight.  If you think about where your thoughts are around food or the feelings that is driving that behavior that is causing you to eat something that you know  you shouldn’t or don’t really want to eat can really help put a stop to it.  Think about your childhood where is coming from?  Do you use food to comfort yourself because to you food creates a feeling of comfort.  These are just examples to help you do a little investigating as to how you came to believe these thoughts.  And, they are not right or wrong – they are just thoughts and they are not serving you in your adult life anymore.

I want you to succeed to your highest self no matter what that looks like for you.

No matter where your thoughts are today we can change our thoughts and beliefs so that we can live a life that we truly are meant to live.

It’s available to us right now if we choose it to be!