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Have you ever found yourself thinking and believing “oh, I’m so over comparing myself to others, I’m too old for that” but yet at the same time can’t shake the self-doubt that keeps you  overthinking and feeling like you are never going to get where you actually want.

 

Especially what your seemingly “very successful” colleague Jane Doe seems to just be naturally good at and way ahead of you, even though you know deep inside she isn’t smarter or even better, or more qualified than you are.

 

Like what is up with that?

 

So, there you are again spending 4 hours overthinking trying to morph your way into something you actually aren’t — but here you are overthinking changing your mind a gazillion times.  Whether it’s writing the SM post or you can’t find the right outfit to have dinner with your friends because hec they are 30 lbs lighter than you are.

 

Wasting copious amounts of time sitting in indecision and on the bench of the train stop watching everyone pass you by and you forget to get on because you are in a fog of confusion. 

 

It’s time to put yourself on the train if you want success in your business and life and start taking action. Messy action even. 

 

You might be scratching your head over there wondering if they have something you don’t and oh yeah, here comes the comparison trap all over again.  

 

Oh, and lets face it, you can’t even get yourself out of comparing even your own body next to what it used it be when you open the closet.  Oh yeah, that counts too.

 

Because the success of where you want to be lies in what you are bamboozling today.

 

Here’s a tip, get rid of all the old clothes even the favorite ones you are saving for when you get to that size again. I guarantee you’ll want to buy something new and updated rather than letting those size 8 jeans that are also no longer in style make you feel bad about yourself  TODAY.  Let them go. See ya!

 

Let’s unpack this.  


The only difference between Jane Doe and you is she takes action.

She isn’t sitting there thinking a whole bunch about it either.

 

She isn’t making it mean anything bad about herself too if it doesn’t work out.

 

She also isn’t needy in her actions waiting for something in return.  She might evaluate her results.  And, pivots as necessary.  It’s all data to her.  She isn’t perceiving things outside herself and making it mean anything about herself.  The nerve of her to have that much confidence, right? 🤣 


She isn’t carelessly taking action either, she’s planned, she’s strategic and working towards creating a result and taking bold action to get there.  And, in a timely manner.

 

She’s a quick decision maker!


Let’s face it, she isn’t overthinking, she likely isn’t even thinking about herself at all

 

because…

 

She believes and trusts in herself way more than she believes and trusts in things outside of her. 

 

When you miss this foundational step of building self-belief, you’ll continue to sit at the train stop of “Missed Opportunity Avenue” and never get on the train to succeed but might start meeting regret boldly in the face.

 

Whether you want to build a business, get a promotion, or you want to get your body back to a size 8, it’s the same difference of confidence within yourself.

 

You become what you believe.

 

Being a successful Jane Doe requires her to take action and quick to decide.

 

Jane Doe is boldly believing in herself, EVEN if nobody else does.

 

The nerve of her right? Like why is it easy for her.

 

Get it ➡ It is easier for her 😁

 

Because she has the belief in herself first, she may not even had to work for it, but who cares.  ♥️

 

💡 Aha, then yes, if you want to have an amazing future, create the success you desire whether it’s building your business or creating the body and life you want, your foundation of building your belief first is the key to creating it. 

 

Self doubt will have nothing on you.

 

Self-doubt will likely come rearing its ugly head every once in a while when you decide to do something new.  It’s like an old pal you have no interest in seeing. 

 

You see the only thing that is really in the way of creating what you want is the actions you haven’t taken yet.

 

It’s okay, been there done that.  I know as a high achiever you want to stop underearning, you want to achieve your goals and start being the success you know deep down you are capable of. 


Instead of sitting there over researching, working your tail off to write the perfect post, exhausting yourself in the meantime,  diverting your attention once in a while when your feeling overwhelmed then getting to Friday with a lot of anxiety and unnecessary chaos with the same goals no matter what those goals are.

 

Meanwhile, Jane Doe who isn’t even giving it another thought is over there boasting to Audrey at Starbucks about how amazing her life is. 

 

Listen I get it, maybe you are shy and not wanting to make a big deal when it took you 3 years to get where are right now and it’s taken her 3 months to surpass you.

 

Jane likely has big bold belief in herself, she cares less about what others think.  All she’s thinking about is herself and what she desires but not even a mean way.  Her beliefs boast self-love and probably compassion in that mix for when she makes mistakes — she isn’t afraid of those.  She understands they come with success. 

 

It’s just who she is and maybe you envy that which is kind of cool and I love that.  Do you know why?  It means she is triggering your true self  to want to level up your life — and that is the nagging reminder from your gut.  Deep down you know you are meant for more ♥️.

 

Your default brain already has set beliefs about yourself on autopilot since you are 8 years old.  Yes, eight years old!  Yet, you are a brand new person changing through the seasons of your life, surely you have new goals and aspirations that are brand new.  Well your default brain hates change.  It’s dysregulating to your body and will try its darnedest to keep your life the same.

 

And, what got you here isn’t going to get you there.  If you want to create life you love, where you aren’t overthinking causing a ton of unnecessary stress.

 

Because wanting and doing are two very different things.

 

Don’t let doubt, overwhelm and confusion be the reason you stay stuck.

 

Gaining clarity, making quick decisions, taking action from commitment and being consistent will inevitably shine success from having that bold belief in yourself. 

 

When you compare yourself to others, you’re not only undermining your own self-confidence but also missing out on your own unique journey from pursuing your dreams authentically.

 

Set up your free complimentary call so I can show you how you can stop overthinking, letting self-doubt run your life and start creating the success you desire by building belief in yourself. It’s the foundation for everything you desire in your life. Because that’s when showing up for yourself and taking action becomes easy.  It’s a practice and I can’t wait to show you how. 

When wanting to create something new in your life, we often have a lot of resistance because we think certain parts of ourselves is just who you are — it seems unchangeable.
 

No matter what you do, you revert back to your old self, your old life eventually. 


You just can’t seem to create the result you want even if sometimes you take the right actions. 


Whether you wind up sabotaging yourself subconsciously or even consciously because it seems to bring up a lot of resistance and you wind up constantly attaching yourself as things happen as if you think you don’t have a choice. 


Things happen and you think it’s just the way things happen for you.


When you have an unmanaged mind and no awareness of your identity of who you believe you are.  


Urges will come and you answer them by attaching to them becoming victim and powerless to them — as if that is who you are. 


But I want you to recognize that you do have choice.


And, it starts with awareness as the first step. 


And, it could be a lot easier to create a different result when you stop answering or acting on those urges that appear. 


If you just let them be there. No matter what is going on outside in your life. 


Whether it’s something that always seems to happen when life actually is going right.  And, somehow, someway, something seems to happen and it messes you up.  


You think that is just how your life is.  That that is just who you are. 


When you really start raising your awareness to what you are thinking, doing and believing about you, you can start to change this around.  You can detach yourself from things happening in your life, when you start noticing you are becoming victim to it.  


Seems like a strong word, but that is exactly what you are doing.  


You may find yourself in a situation where things happening outside of you, even someone else’s circumstance but somehow it affects your life.  Or, even for instance you are driving and you get a flat tire and stuck and you find yourself in this situation and the next thing you say is “omg, why does this always happen to me” “why can’t my life ever go right.


See what I mean. 


Or, here’s another instance for example, you can’t seem to find the right relationship in your life, and you might believe that there is nobody for you, that nobody chooses you ever, or you can never find the right person. 


The thing is that is exactly what you believe so you’ll always find evidence in the outside world to prove this true. 


And, then you find yourself explaining away that because of this “thing” that is why.

 

The situation is why.  


You wind up feeling powerless and at the effect of your life.  


Instead of creating the life you want.

 

No matter how hard you try things just happen to you. And, it’s not your fault. 


That could be true.

Something happens in your life and that actually will always be.  And if you want to create a different life, then you also have to letting go of this habit of your old identity or it will continue to sabotage the very thing you desire.

 

And, I want to offer to you.

 

You are allowing it.

 

Raise your awareness.

 

There is always going to be things happening in the world.  No matter what.  Life is 50/50.

 

You can start to change your life when you start shedding your identity and certain parts of you that no longer serve you.  The parts that would not create the future you actually want. No matter what result you want to create in your life.

 

Stop falling victim to your own creation. Stop attaching yourself to the problems that are urging you to pay attention to.

 

Allow the urges to come and don’t answer them.

 

That doesn’t mean you ignore and don’t care for things happening around you.

 

But where you are actually fully engaging in it.  You must start noticing.

 

This thing happened and now you have to respond to it.  You have to attach yourself to the problem.  You’ll find yourself wanting and urging you to it, the resistance to instead take the action you want in a different direction — no matter what is going on.

 

It could even be in your own mind — cause that is where it begins.  You have a problem or situation and immediately you may find your brain out of habit because that is what it’s always done and who you believe yourself to be— from this identity of who you believe you are and how your life just has always been.

 

Guys, this happens in weightloss, your health, growing business, or make more money or in relationships, family, etc

 

The unexpected bill or car, appliance repair that comes.


Have you ever heard yourself saying “when it rains it pours”.

 

Just noticing this, is how you start to change this around. 


You may very well just got your finances in order and ready to start paying off some debt or just got yourself in a position to be in the green.  And, then the next thing you know something happens and you have this huge unexpected expense.


This is where you notice that you notice your mind wanting to blurt those words out.  When you start to notice this, is the only way you can change it.


You don’t have to answer it that way.

 

Where are you not allowing urges of your own brain to want to make some problem a problem, making this issue the very reason, 


The first step to shedding who you are currently being in your life is recognizing and noticing the urge to attach yourself to it. 


How can you find something just today or this week in your life and notice where you are finding the urge to want to say something, tell someone, say it to yourself, a friend, family or you just think it, or you find yourself doing a particular thing even though you didn’t want to because somehow you think you have no control over it.  That it just happens. 


When you start to notice this habit (which comes from your identity) of who you believe you are or how your life is and it’s actually a habit of your old identity — and not who you want yourself to be.


Life does happens for us and when we don’t recognize that we are constantly attaching to things and become at the effect of those things instead of being in control of our own lives and who you desire to be — when those things happen you will start to take your power back. 


Becoming  the powerful creator of your life and what exactly you want to create beings with awareness — just noticing what and where your mind wants to blurt out — even in your own mind.  You’ll find the urge.  


Let that urge go unanswered.


Just let it be there. 

 

Start divorcing yourself, detaching yourself, shedding your old identity. 


No matter what is happening outside of you.
 

Just noticing how you are reacting vs responding will start to shift this.


Take a pause and notice the urge there to react, and when you can respond in your own body and mind and let it go.  Let the urge be there in your body.  No matter what the outside world is telling you.  Don’t answer it.  Let it be.

 

Life does happen for you not to you and you can be the powerful creator of the results you actually want in your life — no matter what is happening outside you.   


It begins with raising your awareness and learning how to manage your mind and body.


Nobody else needs to change in your life to have what you want in your life.  But you. 


If you want to create a life you love and create different results in your life in 2024, book your free call today so you can get the support you need.

 

ps.  I’ll teach you how to change everything in your life from creating better habits for your health and life and stop living at the effect of it letting go of all your old stories and beliefs you have about yourself so you can let that all go and start creating the very results you desire. 

 

 

Have you ever thought why you are overcomplicating the crap out of things?

 

Often this happens when we are about to change.

 

When we want to go after a goal we have never achieved before, overcomplicating comes to rear its ugly head causing struggle and unwanted stress.

 

Right now you believe that it’s complicated, I get it.

 

Maybe it is. But here me out. 


Possibly when you sit down to learn something new and you just aren’t grasping the concept, trying to figure it out, and the struggle is real, you are changing your mind a gazillion times, trying to get clear, 

  • Trying to get it right and perfect even 
  • Constantly getting up and doing other things 
  • Can’t focus and wind up taking a break on checking SM, then you wind up losing an hour 
  • Do something else because now you are backlogged on things around the house even


But when it comes back time to sit down to figure it out, you are struggling all over again, feeling it’s complicate and anxious and it’s keeping you stuck.


Blank, back to ground zero and possibly going back to your old way of doing things, except you aren’t progressing to getting where you want in your business or your goals.


Well there is nothing wrong with you or your life or even your business – you might just be trying to solve the wrong problem.

You might think if only “I knew this, I could move on” but yet all the researching, you still don’t figure it out, you wind up stuck in indecision, overwhelm & anxiety. 


There are usually one of two reasons this might happen:

  1. You are trying to solve the wrong problem.  You might have thoughts like “I have no idea what Im doing”, “this is too hard”, “if only I knew the answer” Your brain will want to solve this problem first except it says in an endless loop since it’s believing this to be true creating results that you don’t even want. 
  2. Overcomplicating could be the very mechanism that your body uses to save you from emotional pain of the future — and there is actually no emotional pain in the future, but your body remembers the stress from your past in your body and doesn’t even care about your goals, it will not want to go there ever again. Say good bye to getting what you want, if you don’t truly know what’s happening or even realize you might be avoiding negative emotion. 

Your thoughts create your reality.

 

Your brains only job is to prove the thoughts it already believes about you, even if that’s not what you want, what?  Yea, and all set and on autopilot from your 8 year old self.

 

That doesn’t really help you in creating what you want in the future that is different from your past!

 

When you are acting from your default brains thoughts of your past of what it already believes about you, you continue to create the same results.

 

If you want to achieve your goals in the second half of life and you find yourself overcomplicating things in your business or life, you might be working from mindset of your past or a defense mechanism from your body all holding you back from creating what you desire in your life. You can change that around when you start getting to the root issues instead of struggling to create what you want in your life, especially for the second half — when everything you want is new!   If this resonates with you, lets chat.

While you think you might need to work harder,  have some forced discipline by beating yourself up, some magic wand of inspired focus so you can take action and be persistent — these often lead to feeling depleted, burn out with your adrenals tanked & cortisol high & chronically stressed internally and leads to giving up. 

Start believing  you are the person you desire to be NOW, not WHEN

—> the successful 100k entrepreneur

—> the 30lb lighter person,

—> the financial fit person, 

—> the established leader, 

 

🏆 the person that actually follows through on her goals🏆

AND, it doesn’t matter your goal 


Your follow-through is completely different along the journey 


when you are her NOW.


You’ll put to rest of the constant start, stop, start over every single day,  week or year with the same damn goals. 


You’ll gain clarity from your actions, learn from your mistakes, start working on the right problems to solve.


Instead of constant doubting yourself, learning more but still not implementing fully, feeling insecure, confused & overwhelmed in the process so you wind up changing your mind a gazillion times 


afraid to be wrong or not being good enough with a tendency to strive for perfection as a way to fill that never ending sense of inadequacy — 


You’ll be spinning at the door of success and might even be in the Cycle of Resistance.


And, if you are in that stage you’ll feel a lot of anxiety trying to overcome those strong emotions but you’ll be stuck because the resistance will win because your body just is trying to survive.


You’ll work on things that have temporary fixes for your self-esteem issues 


When you give yourself permission to step into her now, not when, you’ll gain solid self-belief, free from the influence of past experiences & you’ll let go of the unquenchable thirst from your ego and void you feel. 


Believing is a decision you make. 


You start there.


Goals are for measurement only. 


Only we’re are taught you have to wait and earn that title before you BE it.  


And, it’s actually the opposite.  You must be that person now, all the way through. 


Because that is how you get there.  


So who are you BEING? What’s fueling you?


If you want to fuel yourself with with determination, courage and resilience instead of indecision, regret and a bunch of “shoulds”


BE her NOW, not withholding that identity until you get there. 


The 100k Successful Business Owner —  who didn’t beat herself up all the way through


The 150 lb Woman — who loves herself when she was 180


The Financial Fit Person — who didn’t make debt or their bank account mean anything about themselves


The Established Leader — who didn’t wait till she felt confident enough to be & do


Don’t wait to give yourself permission for your “earned” identity. 


Give yourself permission today.


Goals are often taught that you must earn it in order to be it. 


When I make $100k, I’ll finally be successful, when I lose 30 lbs, I’ll finally love myself/body.


Stop!


If you want to hit your goals, you have to change the way you think about yourself, now, not when:


When you make decisions from “being that person now” you’ll actually find yourself making different decisions.


You won’t be beating yourself up along the way and constantly proving yourself right.  That’s how our brains work. 


Instead: 

  1. Decide what you want to think about yourself. 
  2. Think on purpose now, not when. 
  3. Make your decisions from your future self.
  4. Find yourself following through, hitting your goal, being and doing because you are her NOW, not when


Let’s let go of all the drama your brain likes to drum up and you not giving yourself permission until you accomplish whatever it is you want to accomplish.  The journey getting there is so much different. 

Your brain is like a sifter.

 

Your brain sifts through all the information in a nano second.


What’s good, what’s relevant, what’s not.


But there is one caveat to that.

 

It’s based on 3 things, your:

  1. Self-Concept:  Your filtered perception of who you think you are set by age 8. 
  2. Emotional capacity: Ability to feel all kinds of emotion. Let’s face it, as a child you were likely handed something to help you feel better vs. feel bad when something goes wrong. As an adult, you’ll easily look for this same way only it looks different than being handed a chance to go to the park when Patty flat-left you, or the school trip was canceled.  It was replaced with feeling happy right away, not pausing to allow you or know how to feel negative emotion — still with you when you are sitting down to do that tough project, for your business or work out a plan & gain clarity desired but has you overthinking more instead of taking action to find out — you’ll easily  avoid, escape, resist them as an adult.
  3. Self-Awareness level: When you don’t know how to see or manage mindset, and be able to pluck it out and see it with curiosity not judgment and your inner critic getting in the way or even to know if it’s serving you, often keeping you at arms length of where you wish to be.


Your brain looks through this lens of your preconceived self-concept based upon past and then tack on the lack of emotional capacity, your own limited awareness level to decipher what’s true, what’s not, 

 

All through approximately 75,000 thoughts you are having per day.

 

Whew, it’s trying it’s best to be efficient as possible, avoid pain and danger and seeking safety at the same time and getting the needed dopamine it thinks its needed to survive. 

 

Only guess what, you and I don’t live in cave man days. 


Your primitive part of your  brain has not evolved to where you are now.  This is the subconscious part of your brain on repeat automatically drives your behavior — where your beliefs are set even if you didn’t choose them purposely. 

 

Technology, SM, your life, the housing, the buildings, the cars, the food, and everything in it is growing and evolving exponentially everyday — only your brain is filtering through this preset lens of who you think you are set 40 years ago based upon your parents preconceived beliefs and so on and so on. 

 

It’s not evolving as fast and still has this set safety mechanism to guide you from literally dying — often just repeating generational messes from your parents, grandparents, and anything you picked up along the way. 

 

It learns through repetition and think and believe something enough, you take it on as a belief about yourself, that maybe you don’t feel good enough, matter or whatever — limiting your life today.


You’ll have a hard time following through to reach any goal especially in your second half and you are going after new things, new ambitions, maybe a new business or idea you had.


You’ll have to have the emotional capacity to feel negative emotion much bigger than your preset thermometer set at a low disappointment level when things get heavy in worrying about what someone thinks or if something is right or wrong. 


Your brain’s goal is safety and did I tell you it like to be right.  It doesn’t like change which is hard when you have something have new ideas that needs to be flushed out, that feels uncomfortable in your body. 

 

Here’s what often happens when we have big goals especially as women in the second half:

 

  • You’re following all the rules/habits learned as women passed down from passed generations and society norms —> you’ve left yourself last on the list for years doing for everyone else, people pleasing everyone else instead of yourself. 

 

  • You’re using things outside yourself to feel better (unknowingly), cleaning, chores, shopping, cocktails, IG perusing, latest Netflix series, or that big crazy world stressful crap happening going on at any given time — lets face it, bad things happen all the time but maybe it has you getting side tracked and doing nothing because it feels like whats the point when all this negative stuff is going on and I feel stupid pursuing this goal when there is much bigger things your brain thinks it should be worrying about, the list goes on – starting over every week because you are not following through. 

 

  • You know what you want, but can’t seem to get yourself to do it so you wind up stopping by Wednesday or working on things that aren’t even that important to creating the result you desire in your business.  You keep trying to make it perfect, don’t want to be wrong, not feeling good enough as such & such, thinking someone else has better answers or the answer so you start working on something else. Confused yet?


This happens more often if you’ve had a challenging childhood or some stressful events in your life that your body, although it’s a completely different situation, it doesn’t recognize the difference — this is where mind and body and body and mind are connected. The body remembers that stressful feeling and now when it shows up, it likes to escape and avoid instead of feel it or look at it with curiosity, not letting it get in the way.


Now that you’ve had a science lesson, h
ere’s truly what needs to change, if you want to start creating results you desire in your life especially taking action in your business or any area.


So before you start digging into changing direction, a new project, a new course, a new program — your brain finds comfort in doing those. Notice if you ever get to the hard part you abort mission!


I don’t want you to continue getting bamboozled by your own brain, it’s your friend not your foe but it’s based on old programming — making money, losing weight or some life change you desire to make in your life, needs a reset.

 

There are 3 caveats to help permanently change this around:

  1. Changing your beliefs about yourself. Rewiring your brain and resetting it to what you want to believe about yourself and your life based upon your future self not your past.
  2. Learn how to allow negative emotions to be in your body, instead of trying to not feel them or reacting to them, escaping and avoiding them all the time possibly without much awareness you are, not getting very far in your goals. 
  3. Raise your awareness to what the hec your mind is actually believing as true so you know what’s driving your behavior as you can’t change what you aren’t aware of.   


So when you find yourself stuck in doubt, overwhelm and confusion you can move through it, it doesn’t have to drive your behavior anymore keeping you stuck.
 These indulgent emotions keep you spinning at the door to success more times that you want and when you know what to do when they come, you’ll have tools and concepts to move through them. 


It’s a game changer and sustainable.  Real change. 

 

No more using food for comfort and gaining weight in the meantime when you can’t sit to figure your project out in your business no matter how you are feeling. 

 

No more going on FB when things feel overwhelming and confusing in your business or that great idea, and next thing you know Sally’s dog passed away and now you’re on Amazon looking for something to cheer her up (not saying to ignore your friend Sally, but this what our brains attach to — safety, pleasure and wants it now)


You can not change what you aren’t aware of is the cause of your problem or symptom.  

 

Raising your awareness so you can see what’s in the way because most of us can not see what is rolling around in our minds at any given time.  We have 75,000 thoughts a day!  


They are creating your personal reality in your life.

 

Your brain is the most powerful tool you have to change your life.

 

It’s possible to have everything you desire when you start to change your beliefs about yourself, increase your emotional capacity to feel and raising your awareness to your own thoughts and mindset.

 

You may think you know, but if you did you’d already achieved what you desired.

 

This is why the process I use helps really helps clients make sustainable change — we reset and rewire your brain.  We learn the process of feeling your emotions vs. escaping them when they arrive in your body or you feel triggered by what someone says or does.  And, you’ll learn what thoughts you are having that are causing a particular result — I promise we think we know but you’re human and you’ll believe your stories as true.

 

This is where  taking action becomes second nature, not a struggle having the same goals every week, month & year trying to make money in your business but can’t even seem to take action since you are always indulging in confusion and doubt and not feeling good enough.


Especially for us multipassionate women — having many talents might have you not choosing one.  Going all in a specific idea and you are trying to cover all the bases.  It’s like double-edged sword, you’ll constantly look to finding clarity & certainty you crave before you actually start but instead of taking action to find it, it keeps you stuck and sometimes trying to solve the  wrong problem.

 

You have everything inside you right now and I can help show you the way.

 

If you want to be successful in your business, health or life and start following through on your goals and ideas instead of constantly avoiding, let’s chat.  I can help you!


Please leave a comment on what you find difficult to follow through on in your life or business?

When you stop perfecting, constantly doubting & changing your mind,

you’ll lower your anxiety.

But how do you do that when you keep finding yourself in doing it?

It’s a decision you make in your mind.

Perfectionism is not a trait that really serves you.

It holds you back, from finishing or accomplishing at least in a timely manner and sometimes ever.

It keeps you spinning.

It confuses you.

It will play tricks in your head to try to make it better.

It just keeps you stuck — unnecessarily.

You can decide there is no such thing as perfect and 80% or even 70% is good enough.

To your brain, it feels like it’s going to die

— literally it would rather keep you in indecision, doubt and confusion than making some decisions and see what happens.

so it keeps you doubting, perfecting

which ironically actually feels more comfortable in your body (even though you might not think anxiety feels great ha, ha)

But it’s actually saving you from feeling:  embarrassment and shame!

There is a fine line between the resistance you feel and perfectionism.

They both feel pressure and heavy but they keep you away from what you desire. 

You won’t recognize the resistance if you are new to this work,

you’ll keep believing your brain when it tells you it’s not good enough, that you’re not good enough — and it’s likely subconsciously hiding under your radar, even if consciously you are telling yourself you are good enough.  

The resistance you feel will pull you away and have you doing something else so be careful. 

You might even think you have a focus & procrastination problem.

When you recognize it, you can change it.

And, you don’t even need to go down a complete rabbit hole of your past — I’m going to save you time right now.

When you tend to be a perfectionist…

  • you might be afraid of what others think, even if you tell yourself that’s not the case.
  • you think you have to have it perfect, it’s the only way.
  • you will convince yourself, it’s not ready, it could be better.
  • you love the outside recognition it gives you when you are finally ready to put it out there, you’ll use it to feel good about yourself.
  • you can’t wait to finish so you can finally feel proud of yourself after it’s completed — one for the books, for the accomplishment even if it took you years (or 10 more hours than it actually should of) — no shame either way ;).

Your brain actually can finish things when you give it a specific time to do it in. 

The result you want.

So next time you find yourself in a pickle of trying to do something perfectly,

and you are procastinating, doubting or just getting anxious when it doesn’t feel perfect

try this:

before you even start, give yourself a specific amount of time to do it in. 

Your brain will figure it out.

If you are good at it (no pun intended) you’ll know exactly how much time you’ll need ahead of time.

You might fail the first few times at the allotted time but I promise you, you’ll get better at estimating without allowing the crazy pressure you put on yourself to perfect it. You brain will now know what to expect from you to.  

It decreases decision fatigue because you decided ahead of time instead of giving yourself 2 weeks for a project when it really required 2-4 hours. 

Stop believing your brain when it tells you it’s not good enough or your not good enough, don’t let it derail you, constrain your focus, decide the time and go all in on creating the result you want in that time frame.  It works. 

 

Are you making them?


There is no wrong or right decisions.


The more conscious ones you make the better your life will be. 


So let me ask you this…


Do you know where you are going? 


—> 1 year, 5 years, 10 or 25 years from now?


If you can’t answer that question you can easily fall in the trap of landing somewhere you don’t even know or like. 


The truth is you are deciding in each moment where life is taking you. 


If you don’t change things, nothing will change from within your own power.

If you don’t recommit to the current life you have, you will live a life of default 


that won’t be nearly as powerful as it ever could be.


       🙋🏼‍♀️ Who do you want to be? 


       ✈️ Where do you want to go?


       🌟 What do you want to do?


Your brain listens to what you say


There are triggers that get your attention — habitual brain 


Rediscover who you are.


Your doubts get in the way of what you truly want.  


What you focus on grows.  


If you are focusing on the doubts they tend to take precedence and that is what you manifest.


You are deciding that.  


You have the option to change direction at any time, no matter how old or young you are with conscious decisions.


One of the main problems we have is making unconscious decisions, unwanted automatic decisions.  They are repeated decisions that happen almost against your own will.


Some are good and serve us and some not so much.  


Review your decisions consciously to ensure they are decisions you want to be making. 


Think of a result you get every day.  


Is it the result you like?


Maybe you end up feeling chronically stressed and tired because you aren’t creating the business you’d like or imagined but rather a lot of busywork instead


and you just want to unease the stress by having a glass of wine, watch tv or peruse SM to veg out and not think about anything at the end of the day.   And, you do this everyday but keep flipping the calendar over to Monday what the same goals.


Maybe you’ve done this for so long, you might not even see it as a conscious decision anymore, it’s just who you are, and how your life is unfolding…


Someone that has to much too do with so many things on your plate that you you don’t even know what to do to create the business you once imagined, the money, the clients and “having it all”.  It gets overwhelming and then there is the other hats of your life too — all of them that you wear.


But when you step back and realize that just because you aren’t really conscious when you make that decision doesn’t make it less powerful.  


The decision to do “busywork — whatever seems important in the moment” is a very powerful decision — it’s one you want to make consciously and ahead of time.  It will change the trajectory of your results. 


So, who is this extraordinary woman inside you?  


What decisions would she like to make on purpose…consciously, in order to create the result you desire?


Start to take a look at those automated decisions vs. using your own power to make them consciously. 

 

p.s. When you are ready and want to learn how to flip your decision making from unconscious to conscious ones.  And, start creating the results you desire in your business or life, set up a free discovery call so you can see exactly the cause of the real issue.  It just may blow your mind.

Something to ponder.

 

When you elevate your mind, your entire life changes — all of it.

 

You can’t un-know what you know. 

 

Every decision after it’s kinda wild.

 

You have a lot more certainty (because it will no longer matter so much if you make mistakes) 

 

which ironically that is exactly what your brain desires before it actually makes a decision — it wants certainty and damn, it want’s a lot of it before.

 

but when you don’t have that awareness 

 

You’ll start trying to solve the wrong problem.

 

you’ll keep yourself in indecision far too long that you’ll find yourself in confusion, overwhelm and doubt. 

 

The human mind wants the easy way.  

 

It’s how it was designed.  

 

In the time-frame of not really getting to the root cause of your problem which if you allow it 

 

— it could be years, often same goals every week, month, year!  

 

Whether it’s your health or your life…

 

Slow progress because in that time frame of actually healing you’ll find yourself in 

 

quick fixes, surface level change, magic pills, band-aid approaches, one off solutions we often think it will remedy the problem, 

 

even if it’s “natural approaches” which I hear all the time from so many people often asking me what can I do for this or that.  

 

What should I eat?  What do you think, will help this?  

 

I found this on Amazon and has great reviews for this symptom. 

 

Now, I got this other problem…what can I do for this?  

 

They have symptom after symptom pop up.

 

And that’s why you’ll be at arms length from actual healing. 

 

Because we rather google for answers which often has the magic ticket of easy but doesn’t lead to really solving the real problem. 

 

Life keeps repeating itself because sometimes the pain isn’t enough to change at the moment.  

 

That’s okay, don’t beat yourself up for things you just don’t understand or know yet.

 

But in the meantime…

 

Your mind will like to play mind games with you. 

 

Keeping things just how they have been but not really better. 

 

Your human mind doesn’t like change even if the result is one you wish you had. 

 

It’s conditioned to keep your decisions the same — the same neural pathways are ingrained and has been “conditioned” since you’re about 8 yrs old. 

 

And, you just want “so and so” to stop acting the way they are so you can have peace. 

 

And, if you learned to cope …which nobody knows at 8 years old really knows how to cope, 

 

so often you learn unhealthy coping mechanisms by yourself to keep yourself safe unknowingly it’s conditioned now and on autopilot. 

 

You’ll often take on meaning about yourself, your life and it’s on autopilot.  

 

It’s still playing out in your adult life,

 

in your relationships, in your business, in your finances, in your daily everyday life,

 

how and what you eat, what you believe to be true…even if it’s not true and so on. 

 

You’ll often be reactive to everything around you.  

 

Trying to control your symptoms, your life and everything outside you is exhausting.  

 

It’s stressful on your body.

 

So when you finally start on the healing journey you will find yourself facing a lot of resistance, indecision, doubt and even confusion.

 

It feels uncomfortable often in the body but it may go even unnoticed because your body is used to protecting itself automatically you aren’t even aware it’s happening in the moment. 

 

It happens in a nanosecond.  

 

You may find yourself just moving to something else in the moment.   

 

Whether that is cleaning, shopping, scrolling SM, or whatever your favorite flavor or comfort is.  

 

A cocktail after a stressful day.  That yummy cheesy dip you can’t seem to keep your hands out of when you said just one. 

 

Other times, you’ll experience anxiety and your body doesn’t even know what to do with it other than it doesn’t want to feel negative emotion so you kinda freak out.  

 

It grows rather than subsides.  

 

Every time it appears you think that something wrong. 

 

Stress is the leading cause of dis-ease.

 

Gut issues, autoimmune issues, thyroid issues, joint and muscle issues and internal inflammation, even cancer.

 

Not everything can be healed by just changing your diet.  

 

Food matters tremendously and the quality of it 100% but when you keep trying.

 

Your entire tapestry of your life is affected by your mind first — decisions.  

 

Your body and mind are connected ~ even with the food you are eating. 

 

The quality and type of food affects the stress in your body at a cellular level. 

 

Your organs are more healthier when your emotional health is in check because you aren’t holding onto old stress.

 

When you are constantly stressed even at a low level that you think is keeping you functional, you continually have more symptoms pop up.

 

Look to heal the whole body from the inside out.

 

It starts in your mind.

 

Your thoughts are creating your life experience at any given time.

 

When you actually know what thoughts are creating what results, you actually change your entire life – for the better.

 

Because your brain likes the same — it will keep you in that GAP instead of where you want to be. 

 

When you elevate your mind, when you learn to have the emotional capacity of all human emotions, not just the happy ones and start to dig into the thoughts you have about yourself that are leading you to behave a particular way, your entire life will shift. 

 

you might realize that you are much more capable to have the life you actually desire a lot easier than trying to look for the easier way.

 

Raise your awareness to solving the real problem and change your life. 

 

Hey, if you feel compelled to get help but not sure where to even begin, I got you.  I’ll coach you through my unique framework, which brings you from uncertainty to clarity and help you get to the real issue of your problem.  Click here to schedule your FREE discovery call.