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While you think you might need to work harder,  have some forced discipline by beating yourself up, some magic wand of inspired focus so you can take action and be persistent — these often lead to feeling depleted, burn out with your adrenals tanked & cortisol high & chronically stressed internally and leads to giving up. 

Start believing  you are the person you desire to be NOW, not WHEN

—> the successful 100k entrepreneur

—> the 30lb lighter person,

—> the financial fit person, 

—> the established leader, 

 

🏆 the person that actually follows through on her goals🏆

AND, it doesn’t matter your goal 


Your follow-through is completely different along the journey 


when you are her NOW.


You’ll put to rest of the constant start, stop, start over every single day,  week or year with the same damn goals. 


You’ll gain clarity from your actions, learn from your mistakes, start working on the right problems to solve.


Instead of constant doubting yourself, learning more but still not implementing fully, feeling insecure, confused & overwhelmed in the process so you wind up changing your mind a gazillion times 


afraid to be wrong or not being good enough with a tendency to strive for perfection as a way to fill that never ending sense of inadequacy — 


You’ll be spinning at the door of success and might even be in the Cycle of Resistance.


And, if you are in that stage you’ll feel a lot of anxiety trying to overcome those strong emotions but you’ll be stuck because the resistance will win because your body just is trying to survive.


You’ll work on things that have temporary fixes for your self-esteem issues 


When you give yourself permission to step into her now, not when, you’ll gain solid self-belief, free from the influence of past experiences & you’ll let go of the unquenchable thirst from your ego and void you feel. 


Believing is a decision you make. 


You start there.


Goals are for measurement only. 


Only we’re are taught you have to wait and earn that title before you BE it.  


And, it’s actually the opposite.  You must be that person now, all the way through. 


Because that is how you get there.  


So who are you BEING? What’s fueling you?


If you want to fuel yourself with with determination, courage and resilience instead of indecision, regret and a bunch of “shoulds”


BE her NOW, not withholding that identity until you get there. 


The 100k Successful Business Owner —  who didn’t beat herself up all the way through


The 150 lb Woman — who loves herself when she was 180


The Financial Fit Person — who didn’t make debt or their bank account mean anything about themselves


The Established Leader — who didn’t wait till she felt confident enough to be & do


Don’t wait to give yourself permission for your “earned” identity. 


Give yourself permission today.


Goals are often taught that you must earn it in order to be it. 


When I make $100k, I’ll finally be successful, when I lose 30 lbs, I’ll finally love myself/body.


Stop!


If you want to hit your goals, you have to change the way you think about yourself, now, not when:


When you make decisions from “being that person now” you’ll actually find yourself making different decisions.


You won’t be beating yourself up along the way and constantly proving yourself right.  That’s how our brains work. 


Instead: 

  1. Decide what you want to think about yourself. 
  2. Think on purpose now, not when. 
  3. Make your decisions from your future self.
  4. Find yourself following through, hitting your goal, being and doing because you are her NOW, not when


Let’s let go of all the drama your brain likes to drum up and you not giving yourself permission until you accomplish whatever it is you want to accomplish.  The journey getting there is so much different. 

When you stop perfecting, constantly doubting & changing your mind,

you’ll lower your anxiety.

But how do you do that when you keep finding yourself in doing it?

It’s a decision you make in your mind.

Perfectionism is not a trait that really serves you.

It holds you back, from finishing or accomplishing at least in a timely manner and sometimes ever.

It keeps you spinning.

It confuses you.

It will play tricks in your head to try to make it better.

It just keeps you stuck — unnecessarily.

You can decide there is no such thing as perfect and 80% or even 70% is good enough.

To your brain, it feels like it’s going to die

— literally it would rather keep you in indecision, doubt and confusion than making some decisions and see what happens.

so it keeps you doubting, perfecting

which ironically actually feels more comfortable in your body (even though you might not think anxiety feels great ha, ha)

But it’s actually saving you from feeling:  embarrassment and shame!

There is a fine line between the resistance you feel and perfectionism.

They both feel pressure and heavy but they keep you away from what you desire. 

You won’t recognize the resistance if you are new to this work,

you’ll keep believing your brain when it tells you it’s not good enough, that you’re not good enough — and it’s likely subconsciously hiding under your radar, even if consciously you are telling yourself you are good enough.  

The resistance you feel will pull you away and have you doing something else so be careful. 

You might even think you have a focus & procrastination problem.

When you recognize it, you can change it.

And, you don’t even need to go down a complete rabbit hole of your past — I’m going to save you time right now.

When you tend to be a perfectionist…

  • you might be afraid of what others think, even if you tell yourself that’s not the case.
  • you think you have to have it perfect, it’s the only way.
  • you will convince yourself, it’s not ready, it could be better.
  • you love the outside recognition it gives you when you are finally ready to put it out there, you’ll use it to feel good about yourself.
  • you can’t wait to finish so you can finally feel proud of yourself after it’s completed — one for the books, for the accomplishment even if it took you years (or 10 more hours than it actually should of) — no shame either way ;).

Your brain actually can finish things when you give it a specific time to do it in. 

The result you want.

So next time you find yourself in a pickle of trying to do something perfectly,

and you are procastinating, doubting or just getting anxious when it doesn’t feel perfect

try this:

before you even start, give yourself a specific amount of time to do it in. 

Your brain will figure it out.

If you are good at it (no pun intended) you’ll know exactly how much time you’ll need ahead of time.

You might fail the first few times at the allotted time but I promise you, you’ll get better at estimating without allowing the crazy pressure you put on yourself to perfect it. You brain will now know what to expect from you to.  

It decreases decision fatigue because you decided ahead of time instead of giving yourself 2 weeks for a project when it really required 2-4 hours. 

Stop believing your brain when it tells you it’s not good enough or your not good enough, don’t let it derail you, constrain your focus, decide the time and go all in on creating the result you want in that time frame.  It works.