While you think you might need to work harder, have some forced discipline by beating yourself up, some magic wand of inspired focus so you can take action and be persistent — these often lead to feeling depleted, burn out with your adrenals tanked & cortisol high & chronically stressed internally and leads to giving up.
Start believing you are the person you desire to be NOW, not WHEN
—> the successful 100k entrepreneur
—> the 30lb lighter person,
—> the financial fit person,
—> the established leader,
🏆 the person that actually follows through on her goals🏆
AND, it doesn’t matter your goal
Your follow-through is completely different along the journey
when you are her NOW.
You’ll put to rest of the constant start, stop, start over every single day, week or year with the same damn goals.
You’ll gain clarity from your actions, learn from your mistakes, start working on the right problems to solve.
Instead of constant doubting yourself, learning more but still not implementing fully, feeling insecure, confused & overwhelmed in the process so you wind up changing your mind a gazillion times
afraid to be wrong or not being good enough with a tendency to strive for perfection as a way to fill that never ending sense of inadequacy —
You’ll be spinning at the door of success and might even be in the Cycle of Resistance.
And, if you are in that stage you’ll feel a lot of anxiety trying to overcome those strong emotions but you’ll be stuck because the resistance will win because your body just is trying to survive.
You’ll work on things that have temporary fixes for your self-esteem issues
When you give yourself permission to step into her now, not when, you’ll gain solid self-belief, free from the influence of past experiences & you’ll let go of the unquenchable thirst from your ego and void you feel.
Believing is a decision you make.
You start there.
Goals are for measurement only.
Only we’re are taught you have to wait and earn that title before you BE it.
And, it’s actually the opposite. You must be that person now, all the way through.
Because that is how you get there.
So who are you BEING? What’s fueling you?
If you want to fuel yourself with with determination, courage and resilience instead of indecision, regret and a bunch of “shoulds”
BE her NOW, not withholding that identity until you get there.
The 100k Successful Business Owner — who didn’t beat herself up all the way through
The 150 lb Woman — who loves herself when she was 180
The Financial Fit Person — who didn’t make debt or their bank account mean anything about themselves
The Established Leader — who didn’t wait till she felt confident enough to be & do
Don’t wait to give yourself permission for your “earned” identity.
Give yourself permission today.
Goals are often taught that you must earn it in order to be it.
When I make $100k, I’ll finally be successful, when I lose 30 lbs, I’ll finally love myself/body.
If you want to hit your goals, you have to change the way you think about yourself, now, not when:
When you make decisions from “being that person now” you’ll actually find yourself making different decisions.
You won’t be beating yourself up along the way and constantly proving yourself right. That’s how our brains work.
- Decide what you want to think about yourself.
- Think on purpose now, not when.
- Make your decisions from your future self.
- Find yourself following through, hitting your goal, being and doing because you are her NOW, not when
Let’s let go of all the drama your brain likes to drum up and you not giving yourself permission until you accomplish whatever it is you want to accomplish. The journey getting there is so much different.